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Originally Posted by moeee
Bit of plagiarism from a reformed or possibly ex-gambler.
"I do not want to stop the gambling.I want to stop the consequences of my gambling."
Turns out,the only solution for him was to stop the gambling.
My consequences are that I have wasted a lot of living time and financially I am a lot worse off.
Any gamblerholics out there who can give me some advice as to how to make my gambling less painful?
Surely stopping can't be the only solution?
SPORTZ? You seem to be devoured by your pursuit of gambling.
How do you fit the rest of your life in?.Are you for example,wheelchair-bound?.Do you have a bottomless source of income?
What are you doing right that I am doing wrong?
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Do you get someone to manage your finances.Do you give the pay packet to your missus?
I have often found that often the miserable feeling is in direct proportion to the amount lost on the day.
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A couple of points...
1/ If your gambling is a problem and affecting both your living standard and your life, is it not worth stopping?
2/ It is not the amount of money you lose, it is the direct proportion of money you lose to personal income.
You can be earning $5,000 a week as a business owner and losing $2,500 a week without it being a problem, because that's the way you want to spend your money and can still afford a nice lifestyle.
You can be a pensioner or unemployed and lose $20 a week and not be able to afford the food you want or pay the rent.
It's all relative, but the problem is not.
3/ Where is the problem?
Is it you can't make a profit, or is it lack of self control?
The former can be fixed by due diligence and research, the latter cannot be fixed.
I'll say that again...
Lack of self control CANNOT be fixed - you should stop gambling altogether.
You can fool yourself into only putting a budget of $5 into your TAB account per week, and it will probably work well for a while, but sooner or later your lack of self control will re-emerge and either waste all the money you made or worse!
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Do you get someone to manage your finances.Do you give the pay packet to your missus?
I have often found that often the miserable feeling is in direct proportion to the amount lost on the day.
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No - you will lose all sense of self respect.
You must be in charge of your own destiny.
Give your paypacket to your missus, and she will be happy, but she will also acknowledge privately, that her man is not strong enough to put the family first and has no self control (planting that into the mind of your spouse is like a molotov cocktail waiting to go off!!!).
The issue is not the gambling - the issue is putting the gambling first.
I know, I've been there.